Let me tell you a little about what I’ve been up to and a then about something that gets me RED IN THE FACE. (Leslie is experimenting with caps lock today because she just drank a cup of strong coffee and feels PASSIONATE about what she’s about to say.)
It has been too long since I’ve logged a new post. My apologies to you, because I know it’s no fun to be a reader of a bland blog. Or should I say blah-g ? (Get it?) Despite the neglect of my blog lately, my life has been full of activity. Here’s what I’ve been up to in the hours I’ve spent away from Parchment Cadenza:
- Enrolling new students in my studio
- Teaching piano in the evenings
- Substitute teaching during the day
- Fixing up my work space and piano nook
- Doing my duties for the professional music organization of which I am a member
- Cleaning my house
- Cooking up a storm and managing the ensuing debris (washing dishes)
- Decorating my house for fall
- Going to a wedding
- Contemplating writing a memoir (!?)
- Never drinking enough coffee, like the one below…
So that is what my life has been like outside of my blog recently. If you read between the lines while going through the list above, you might’ve noticed that I work several non-traditional jobs in my daily life rather than one steady 9-5. I know that route is not the average choice for most college grads, but hopefully you understand that this is my first choice for my career and not a plan B. If you are on board with this idea of working multiple part-times to suit one’s personality and meet one’s needs, you can just skip reading the next paragraph. If not, well, I’ve been dying to say this…
To the people who turn their noses up at people like me who work multiple part time jobs (because it’s what they love to do!) I have to tell you making a living this way is no walk in the park, sweetheart. It is fun and rewarding but it is also hard work and keeps me very busy. And if you think not having one full time job means I’m not using my degree, take a look at the work I’m doing: I’m teaching music. I am a music teacher. I AM using my music education degree, in case you didn’t notice. Please stop making comments to me and secretly thinking I do nothing all day because it’s making me insecure about what I have chosen to do! So there, I have vulnerabilities.
(By the way, no one should have to justify their career choice by bragging – and since when did it become bragging? – about how busy they are. People are too stressed out as it is. I’m just saying that I am not a bum nor have I ever been a bum. I have been employed since the age of 14. I have been feeling the need to tell the world this lately in defense of my life choices, because the world has not been too friendly to me about my job and even my hobbies these days. Would you believe it? I’m sure you’d understand.)
If you are a person who is understanding of others, it’s time to spread the love. People like me need your glowing comments and positive attitudes. I, for one, am super sensitive to any comments that have any negative edge, because I am already critical of myself. More criticism is just unnecessary.
In defense of the part-timer, anyone who pieces together a full time stint from working a combination of jobs, let us help the world understand what that is like:
We actually work 40 hours a week, sometimes more, it just doesn’t look like us driving to work at 7:30 am every day and coming home around 5. It’s different. Sometimes we work from home and sometimes we work different hours outside the home. Our schedules are different every single week so it’s impossible for people around us to predict just where we might end up each day at any given time. Some weeks we have these golden sparkling moments when lunch with a friend is possible, because we have the freedom to cut out that time from our work day and it’s glorious, and we’re sorry you can’t do that too, but we can because we’ve made certain choices about how to order our life with flexibility, and we love it. That doesn’t mean we are bums. The unpredictability of our schedules keeps us on our toes but the security of knowing we always have jobs coming keeps us grounded.
I feel SO strongly that no one should ever be criticized for what they do to make a living that I am considering doing a blog series on it. I’ve been contemplating doing a series of interviews with working women for a while now, and can’t wait for when I can announce that it’s actually happening sometime in the near future, hopefully. There are so many unnerving and disrespectful attitudes in our world regarding women in the workplace AND out of the workplace (stay at home moms?), from female business owners to women trying to work their way up the career ladder to women who provide care for family members, etc. My main problem with these negative attitudes and ideas that women aren’t working hard enough or can’t do the same things men do is that I think every human being deserves respect, especially a human being trying to do good work while also being true to themselves, and I find that women are most often disrespected for what they choose to spend their lives doing.
RESPECT. I shouldn’t even have to ask for it.